Room by Room - Deployment Daze 107

“We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives – not looking for flaws, but for potential.”


(This quote inspired me to depart from my regular Saturday blog and post early, on the 1st.)

How true it is that as the year draws to a close there is the drive to take inventory of the past year. I would relive my year through a Christmas letter sent to friends and family. However, I had stopped several years back. My need for self-preservation and security at the time prevented me from putting my life events in writing. I had stopped walking through my rooms. I realize though that I miss that glance back. That final sweep of "the room" before moving on. Good, bad or otherwise! So here it is my year room by room

My Living Room - The first of the year brought new living arrangements with a move from Oklahoma to Kansas. I thought how different could it be. The states are right next to each other. HA!!! I felt like I had moved to another planet. City to small town (and I mean "nothing to do" small town) was a bummer to say the least. When Wal-Mart is considered your mall, you know you're in trouble. However, it is a great place if you love lake activities which we do. Being boat owners we love to be on the water. The summer we spent on the boat knee boarding and fishing has been the best ever. Oh the fishing! Absolutely the most fun I ever had. We had heard the fishing was great! But at first we only caught dinky fish. Smaller than the bait itself sometimes. Then we hit on the right method and went fish crazy. Catching Wipers as they are flying out of the water is an experience everyone has to try. All the kids experienced their first big catch. Between me losing two poles and two pairs of sunglasses in the lake to my step-daughter falling in makes it a summer to remember.

My Family Room - This year has been particularly difficult with regards to family. Moving in the middle of the school year is difficult and even more so when you have to leave someone behind. My daughter stayed to finish out the Spring semester in Oklahoma and my husband, my son and I moved. There is a lot to this story that I chose not detail, just believe me when I say it was the most painful, traumatic, hurtful, and scary thing that I had ever experienced. My son handled the move like a trooper and was able to enroll in a brand new school. He didn't skip a beat and continues to excel in school with straight A's. He has many friends in the neighborhood. My daughter who joined us later has thrived in her school and is a much happier teenager than before. She too has great friends and a boyfriend who is extremely sweet and smart. We were reduced by one again in the later part of this year when my husband deployed to Iraq. He has been serving our country and will be home in 2010. His absence has had a profound effect on our family. The holidays in particular is where you felt it the most. I know looking forward that these experiences have forged a stronger bond. I love my husband more each day and my kids love him too.

My Office - Well, what can I say. I became a statistic. One of many thousands of unemployed. I left a great paying stable job in the city and moved. (Isn't that a song.."Left a good job in the city..") I just knew with my experience and background I would land a job quickly. HA!!! In a recession! HA!! In a small town where they don't even have my industry! Yeah that didn't work out so well. So income gone. Unemployment gone. What's a girl to do? FREAK OUT!!!! That's what! Yep, I did. Big Time! You see, I'm not the type of female who relies on a man to provide things. If I want something, I work for it. I use my money. Never used manipulation or poor me to get other people to pay for things. Well, when the buck stops here it means everything stops! So every emotion hit the surface..Anger, hurt, terror, etc. After the meltdown came the light. This crisis opened the door to bigger and better things. I finally was given the opportunity to get my Masters Degree and eventually my PhD. To my surprise a 4 year University close to home, a pt-job as a Career Advisor, and on my way to being called Dr. Brown. I'm currently carrying a 4.0 in my graduate work and many of my projects are being used as examples for next year's students.

Game Room - We all enjoyed many fun times this year. Trips to interesting places such as KC, St Louis, Joplin, Wichita. HS Football games and very big deal here. Professional Football and my new experience playing fantasy football. Which of course I was awesome at. 11-2 record for the regular season. Third place overall. Kids in and out of the house. Shopping trips to the mall. And new friends that we've met who have made life here in KS more enjoyable.

After walking through my rooms, I can do nothing now but smile and sometimes laugh. Eventhough some of those times I had cried. I've done my sweep and am ready for the new possibilities that 2010 brings.

To my honey, there are some many memories to cherish from 2009. Many times we had laughed. I laugh now thinking about losing my sunglasses or watching the pole get yanked out of the boat by some giant fish. Oh and the lures... The look on your face, priceless. And the time we drove around all night looking for the Spook Light in Joplin. I will find that light. Just know that I love you. No matter how hard it gets it will get better and then we'll laugh. Also know that my kids adore you and miss you very much. Can't wait until I can write that I have nothing to write...because you've come home. Thanks for a interesting and exciting 2009. I look forward to 2010

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