Ever experienced a moment when you feel like you are seeing into the future? I did this weekend. My teen daughter had a baby. Now before anyone freaks out, let me clarify by saying it was a class project. You know, one of those robot babies that simulate the real thing.
The assignment was to care for this baby for the weekend. So last Friday, I became a grandmother and my daughter a mother. What an interesting experience. The intent of the project was to give young adults the experience of having a child and the hard work it takes. However, its lesson is just not for the teen. That weekend I learned some things as well.
I saw my daughter as an adult. What was scarier is she was just like me! At times I was really proud. The important lessons I had been trying to teach her showed. She was nurturing and attentive. Doing well on the project was important to her. She took on the whole role. She cooked dinner, did her chores and took care of the baby. We even went grocery shopping. And yes, the baby demanded attention constantly, even at the most inopportune times.
Then there were the habits I wished she hadn't picked up. Wanting everything to be perfect. Trying to do too much. Stressing out as a result. Not being able to relax. The habits that haunt me in my adult life I had passed on to my child. Damn!
The good thing is that I have seen this and can now work towards teaching her coping skills. This baby project gave me a new insight into myself. As for my daughter, she has assertively announced that she is not having kids. I just laughed.
To my honey, you missed out on the baby project. I'm sure you are really disappointed. It was amusing to watch. Not much is going on. We look forward to seeing you soon. Hopefully your air travel will go smoothly and not be interupted by the volcano. The boat is ready to be put in the water and we can't wait to do some fishing. I've almost finished my paper and most of my school work will be completed soon. So we'll have lots of time together.
Play Safe, Play Smart
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